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Are you ready to admit that what you will and what you won’t are one and the same process? That as recognition of a figure requires a background, the sense of being “oneself” requires the apprehension that there is something other and external, and that the achievement of any kind of power, success, or control cannot be experienced apart from a perpetual contrast of failure, surprise, and unpredictability. ­ ~A. Watts Does It Matter?

We, as humans, are survivors. At a very early age, we begin both consciously and unconsciously to hone the skills and behaviors necessary for our personal psychological and emotional sustainability. We hide the parts of ourselves that have previously been dismissed, abandoning them to the shadows. At times, we simply place other aspects of ourselves on hold, because there are more compelling parts in need of our attention. And, we do so incrementally. We make countless, small decisions that determine what lives in the light of day and what lurks in the twilight for future consideration.

Most high­functioning individuals have arrived at a sustained level of success by utilizing their gifted talents all­the­while keeping the hidden parts of themselves buried for safekeeping. However, sooner or later the time arrives to unearth and integrate this shadow material.

Acknowledging these hidden sides of one’s self is not only a good idea, it is a requirement.

When these hidden sides of the self emerge without conscious intention, they can become problematic. These strangers will seek us if we do not directly seek them. Without a well­ defined process, we will most likely seek that which we have yet to realize, as though it is something external, living separately from us.

So what does it mean in your life to open to something buried or left behind? How would you pursue a conscious unearthing of yourself? Therapy is useful for so many.

Others exercise or find relief and insight through meditation. Some just walk and do so regularly. Dreams speak to us of the hidden.

Where do you greet what is seeking to emerge in your life? 

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Tim Dukes, Ph.D. develops leaders and communications across fields ranging from executives and business owners to entrepreneurs and artists. His communications model and workshops, built on presence and mindfulness, foster open environments based on trust and candor. Tim’s clients emerge as socially conscious, culturally sustainable, and strategically focused innovators. www.DrTimothyDukes.com​

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