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“One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself.” ~ Leonardo da Vinci

What I really am inquiring about is self-mastery ….

Part II:

Being the victim allows me to drop myself into not having to be responsible for the choices I have made, which allows me to then be righteously accusatory, blaming others for my experience, instead of looking to see how I may have been at cause – in any way – for what is happening in any given moment.

Being seduced by the mindset of victim is actually a position of powerlessness. It feels “right” in that one can justify one’s “innocence” and another’s “wrong” behavior. Yet there is no freedom here. Only a repetitive patterning that quite frankly loses its charm as the years go by, and yet we don’t recognize that we have created our own hamster wheel of suffering.

Check it out. Practice taking responsibility for your experience in life, even if it doesn’t make sense, even if the other person did do something unkind, manipulative, or dominating. There is always a place where we can identify a comment we made, a hidden resentment we had, some attachment of how it “should” be, some choice that led to the interaction going the way that it did. It is not a question of being bad or wrong. It is a question of “are the choices I am making working in giving me the experience I want?”

In listening to ourselves from that inquiry, old ways of operating that don’t work will reveal themselves to us. If we can remove judgment on ourselves, we can experience some freedom in terms of creating a life experience that we want.

This is the portal to tapping into our source of power. This is the portal to freedom from old limiting patterns. This opens the door to the experience of self-mastery.

What would life experience be like if we lived from the inquiry: “How can I be more masterful in creating my life experience for the benefit of all concerned?”

It is all choice. It is all thought.

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About The Author

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Dr. Laura Basha is an organizational psychologist, writer, and artist. 

She is the Founder and Creator of WhiteBird Rising, a resource and guide for the transformational lifestyle. For over 35 years she worked with thousands of international clientele, using a principle-based paradigm of well-being, catalyzing an awakening in people to their authentic self-expression, creativity, and power. Her latest book, All Is Chosen, a beautiful handmade art piece, is a compilation of her life’s work, and can be viewed along with her other writings, videos, and artwork, at

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