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You have to really want to change for personal transformation to take place. The good thing is you are already taking action by reading this. I am just going to jump in because I want personal transformation for you, your neighbor, your coworker, and everyone else! 

1. Build Your INNER Confidence 

Plenty of people look confident but don’t actually feel that way inside. We all know we can easily be our own worst critic. You have to start reconditioning your subconscious beliefs about yourself. Every time an ugly, insecure thought pops up about yourself, say an affirmation out loud. 

For example, if you think “I am not good enough,” start saying “I am worthy, I am capable, I love myself.” It sounds so basic but if you fight one negative thought with three positive objections, it will start to help. 

We have to build our self-assurance and know our worth. Make sure you know yourself better than anyone else. Figure out what your strengths and weaknesses are and work on improving BOTH. 

2. Practice Self-Care 

Make sure you are making time in your week to relax your mind and body. We live in a culture that values being busy all the time and never slowing down. Take a break and don’t feel guilty about it. I like to bike, put on a face mask, blast some music and dance, eat healthier food, and sometimes I will just lay down and watch a lot of TV. I also like to journal and read. These might not be for you but figure out what practicing self-care looks like in your life, and then honor that time for yourself.

3. Give Yourself Time to Analyze 

Ask yourself questions and reflect constantly. Are you living a life that aligns with your purpose? Are the people around you showing you support as well as challenging you? Do you cherish your life? What have you been saying for years you want to do but still have not done? Are you questioning the sources from which you take advice? Are you checking your pride and ego? How healthy are your relationships? Are you burned out? Analyze how you are doing and what you want out of life. 

4. Set Goals and Take Action 

Last semester my goal was to find and obtain more professional experiences. I found two internship opportunities and secured both of them. I have my list of goals on my wall along with my list of affirmations, my three purposes, and my “why” for school and work. This motivates me and reminds me to take action. I challenge you to write out five to ten goals, right now! 

5. Crave Discovery

I did not like reading for most of my life but that changed when I learned how powerful it can be. Fill your mind with new ideas and stories and expand on what you already know. You can listen to podcasts, watch documentaries, listen to knowledgeable people on YouTube, join a Facebook group, or simply learn from the people around you. I really enjoy Jay Shetty’s podcast called “On Purpose” and the book by Russ called It’s All in Your Head

6. Work Through Problems, Not Around Them 

For the longest time, I suppressed my feelings and I attempted to ignore my pain. This never works! You have to deal with your issues head-on. Acknowledge the issue and find ways to resolve it directly. Trauma and pain dictate how many people live their lives and also affect how well they can love themselves and others. Ignoring things won’t make them go away, I promise they will come back up again. 

7. Create More Boundaries with Yourself and Others 

I bet that when you read this step you automatically thought of a few people you need more boundaries with. Stop forcing friendships and making yourself go to events to please others. Listen to yourself! Have clear standards and don’t let people treat you with disrespect. Distance yourself from people who can’t respect your needs. 


You can do them all. You can reinvent yourself as much as you want. You can always start over and switch lanes. 

Comment to share steps you took towards personal transformation!

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Evelyn Alejandro is a 2021 graduate from Salve Regina with a double major in Sociology and Anthropology as well as Global Studies. She also double minored in Economics and Food Studies. She works in the fields of marketing, event planning, writing, and project management. She aspires to be a serial entrepreneur and wants to pursue business that has social impact involved.

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